If you yell at your children, you can destroy their self-esteem and their safety, so if you are angry you should stop and take a deep breath before venting your frustration on your children, who may not be at fault.
Shouting at children doesn’t have to be. Even if responsibilities and stress can sometimes cause you to lose your nerves and self-control, you shouldn’t take out your anger and anger on the little ones . They are not to blame for your frustrations.
Shouting at children leads to low self-esteem or you can use it to keep your children defensive. They learn to act in the same way, which leads to negative learning. Your children won’t learn to listen this way.
But how can you prevent these situations?
Analyze situations in which you are losing control
First of all, you should admit to yourself that you have too little self-control or self-control over yourself. If you don’t admit this, it will be very difficult to change things in your life.
Sometimes we don’t want to perceive the reality of things, but not only you feel the consequences of your actions, but also your children, who are not to blame for the situation slipping out of your hands.
The first step is to analyze situations where you lost control and yelled at your children.
So you can observe your own behavior pattern. Do you yell at your kids after a hard day at work or after a discussion with your partner?
Become aware of this, because this way you can control yourself more easily and solve those situations that put you in a very irritable state.
Not only your children, you too will benefit greatly from this learning process.
You must not punish yourself with feelings of guilt, because it is a completely normal reaction to stress, overload or emotionally intense moments.
But you can resolve this situation and learn to act properly. Yelling at your kids will only add to the problem!
Be careful with expectations that are too high
Expectations often lead to unpleasant surprises, especially when we assume that others will act as we imagine or would like them to.
This is often the case with children too. We assume that they know certain things, but often they don’t.
For example, if your child drops a glass because they want to know what happens, you may yell at them but your child doesn’t understand the reason because they were just trying to do an experiment.
Children know many norms and rules that adults do not follow, they have to learn them slowly, but yelling at children is not the best way.
You can provoke very negative consequences with it, your child will become insecure and anxious!
Think first and calm down before you act. Give yourself a moment to look at the situation and not react incorrectly in the first few seconds of anger.
Your expectations often mean that you don’t see reality correctly and that you are therefore unfair with your children.
Think before you act and take a breather! Shouting at children is not a solution
As mentioned earlier, it is not good to act immediately when you find yourself in a situation that induces anger or anger.
Take your time, leave the room your child is in, take a break, take a deep breath, calm down and observe the situation from a different perspective!
When you are controlled by your emotions, you cannot think clearly. You lose control and maybe yell at your child even though they don’t deserve it.
If you take some time, you may be able to see things that you didn’t consider before.
Maybe you had expectations that were too high, maybe your child wasn’t aware that he was not allowed to do something, or your anger is not due to your child’s behavior but to another situation in your life.
Shouting at children is a very negative example that does not bring a solution, on the contrary.
You only need willpower and the desire to change your behavior so as not to harm your child.
It’s not your fault that you have problems in everyday life!